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Victoria Lorient-Faibish
Victoria Lorient-Faibish MEd, RP, CCC, BCPP, RPE is a Registered Psychotherapist, a legacy professional with over 25 years in experience. She is a relationship expert, life coach, author of 2 books, & award winning inspirational keynote speaker. Her skilled communication style fosters deep self-awareness in her clients, leading to change and healing. Her focus is to disrupt multi-generational family patterns. She has a master’s degree in educational psychology, and her influences include eastern philosophies, the basis for her brand of holistic psychotherapy. Connect with Victoria @ www.visualizationworks.com
Check out our live interview on Business Mentorship; Keepin’ It Real: https://youtu.be/dA7hySoa-1w
Stop Dimming Your Light!, Victoria Lorient-Faibish MEd, RP, CCC, BCPP
- February 28, 2020
- Contributed By: Victoria Lorient-Faibish
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As humans, we are wired for connection. But with trauma we become wired for protection. This often happens in childhood. But can happen with bullying situations later in life as well, like a shaming, bullying and micromanaging boss or an abusive marriage. We dim, we hide, we create barriers and walls so that we can create over-safety. We say yes when we don’t want to. We suffer from the disease to please. We are not our real self. This worked for us when we needed that over protection. But later on in life, this patterning becomes like a lead weight holding us back. This translates into patterns that make us the slave to our guilt, shame and fear and so we dim our inner light.
Time to stop this! Time to stop dimming your light!
I created a one day workshop Saturday, March 7th (synchronistically, it is actually International Women’s day that weekend!) that teaches the participants (both men and women) specific and in proven ways to rewire the brain, so that it not longer operates from the old familiar survival, over protection mode. This offering is a pathway to a richer way of life, in which there is a consistent and deliberate set of skills that allows a person to shine the truth of themselves without apology or limitations.
For over 25 years I have honed the skillset and proven methodology that simply put….. works at the deepest level.
Here are the learning outcomes for the Stop Dimming Your Light: One day intensive:
• Understand why and how you dim your light your light and how it is affecting you and your relationships as well as your mental/emotional well being.
• Disrupt the destructive pattern of the “disease to please”!
• Learn how to effectively rewire your brain so that you can unhook from patterns like guilt, shame, jealousy, anger, resentment, self-judgement, saying yes when you don’t want to and any other self-defeating patterns.
• Create a new relationship with your patterns so that they no longer sabotage you and your ability to create healthy relationships, have success and shine your inner light.
• Learn the anatomy of good boundaries.
• Understand the “Cycle of self-denial” and how it trained you to not value your needs, wants and kept you silent and non-expressive of your real self.
• How to move from 3rd dimensional “survival” living to 5th dimensional living in which you activate your learning and knowing consistently and effectively.
• Understand precisely what the formula for successful change is.
• Understand in concrete terms the difference between self-love and self-worth.
• Create and execute a series of effective neural pathway changing, affirmations and mantras that you can take with you!
• Learn how to be your own CHAMPION by disrupting what you learned and normalized in your family-culture that did not serve you. Learn to visualize and effectively disrupt multi generational family bullshit patterns!
• Liberate your light from deep within so that you can be the hero of our own life and unleash your value and your gift onto to the planet.
What I know for sure is that you can…. we all can, UNHOOK and DISRUPT from this problematic and self-sabotaging pattern.
If you’re ready I have an incredibly deep toolbox of proven techniques and tools that will help you to stop dimming your light. It is time to liberate the light from deep within you. You can be the hero of your life.. You can disrupt old patterns that you were taught in your family culture. Post traumatic growth is possible and now is your time to shimmer and shine your light on this planet.
This will be a game changing event.
When was your lightbulb moment?
I know what it’s like. I grew up learning that love and the very relationships that should be safe are in fact not. I was a master navigator of the emotional mine field that was my family. And when you grow up learning that love is a mine field, you start to believe that the world is a massive battlefield. I became a highly skilled code breaker. I learned how to read minds and rooms with precision.
The outside world, the authority figures, in this case my parents were all that mattered. My feelings, needs, wants were very, very, very, low priority. Their needs, wants, feelings and dramas were the only ones that mattered. When I came home complaining that I was being bullied at school, the advice from my family was “Just ignore it. And maybe change yourself so people don’t notice you.” In other words, hide your true self. Because your true self is just too much. This is when I started to really understand what life was about, I realized that the bullying, the worst bullying that was going on in my life was at home. Profound criticism of my body, my personality, my entire way of being was the object of either ridicule or something to be hidden, lest it be dismantled by the powers that be.
Be quiet, fit in, shut up, tow the line and basically hide who you really are, because possibly your real self is making someone else jealous, hurt or you are taking away from someone else’s spot light. This messaging nearly destroyed me. I realized one day through the assistance of amazing reading, writing and therapy, that no one was going to save me. I needed to save myself. I needed to disrupt this pattern that had at one time served me as a protector, but now was destroying me. I needed be the hero of my own life. That is why I do the work that I do and write what I write and create the content and programs that I do. I have a hunger to teach others how to disrupt the old family – culture that is being seen as normal but is in actuality, creating deep disharmony within, for so many.
The planet needs us all, now… more that ever to have the bravery to be our true self.
We all need to dig deep and find the vein of courage and inspiration so that we may impact our relationships in healthy and positive ways. We can disrupt multi generational BS that has us tied up in unhealthy ways of being. We can be the heroes of our own lives and the champions of our past generations!
What are your three words of advice?
You have value. I grew up thinking I did not have value, yet I have learned in my deep spiritual explorations, that we are all souls and no matter what, we are valuable and that we matter. You matter, I matter, we all matter. This life of ours is a school and the pain is our teacher which I believe on some level, as souls we have agreed to engage in the lessons we are learning in a bid to grow and become more evolved. In fact, I feel that pain is the currency we pay for that growth.
Three words of advice...
Don’t give up. Stay the course. You have value.
Victoria Lorient-Faibish MEd, RP, CCC, BCPP, RPE is a Registered Psychotherapist, a legacy professional with over 25 years in experience. She is a relationship expert, life coach, author of 2 books, & award winning inspirational keynote speaker. Her skilled communication style fosters deep self-awareness in her clients, leading to change and healing. Her focus is to disrupt multi-generational family patterns. She has a master’s degree in educational psychology, and her influences include eastern philosophies, the basis for her brand of holistic psychotherapy. Connect with Victoria @ www.visualizationworks.com
Check out our live interview on Business Mentorship; Keepin’ It Real: https://youtu.be/dA7hySoa-1w
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